No marriage is perfect. We all have our times of joy and seasons that are hard. There are those instances, though, where we know our marriage is under fire. Please welcome my friend, Madison, and enjoy her essay on what to do when your marriage is under attack. She offers some practical and worthwhile suggestions.
“It happened as I was standing beside my couch folding laundry on a random Tuesday.
Something triggered a memory. A memory I thought I had forgotten about several years ago. My husband did something that hurt me badly. We talked about it, worked through it, and moved on; or so I had thought. This had not bothered me for years. Why am I all of a sudden thinking about it again?
Feelings of bitterness slowly started creeping up in my heart once again. The emotions I had at the time of the argument from years ago were slowly coming to the surface and rearing its ugly head once more. I almost immediately realized that I was being attacked. Our marriage was being attacked. Satan saw a tiny crack and secretly squeezed right through it. I realized at that moment that I had a choice.
I could fling the door wide open and let Satan come in and attack my marriage, or I could cast him out and stand on the truth God gives. I could choose to hold a grudge against my husband for something he has already repented of, or I could choose to dwell on what a wonderful, faithful, and loving husband he is. One of those paths would bring life, beauty, and love, while the other would bring chaos, evil, and despair. I had the freedom to choose, and I chose to fiercely love my husband over everything.
It is so important that we are prepared for when Satan tries to attack our marriage. If our hearts and minds are not guarded, and our marriage is not strong, we will surely fall prey to him, and our marriage will crumble. My husband and I have found a few things that work for us when it comes to attack-proofing our marriage that I would like to share with you in case you are struggling with this today.
Communicate with Each Other
You can’t effectively fight hand in hand against the enemy if you are not in constant communication with each other. Be honest at all times. Tell each other how you feel, listen to each other well, and make the necessary changes. Never hide anything from your spouse. You must always be open and admit your faults to one another. Even if you think it will hurt your spouse to tell them, do it anyway out of love and respect. The ugly truth is better than a fake lie. Let your struggles be known so you can help each other.
Never Stop Showing Love to One Another
I believe that almost nothing will kill a marriage faster than not showing love to your spouse. On your wedding day, you vowed to love your spouse no matter the circumstance you are in. If you fail to show love to your spouse, how will your marriage grow? How will you be able to come closer to one another and create a marriage that will withstand any trial? You can’t expect to have a strong, attack-proof marriage if there is no love in it. Never stop showing your spouse how important they are to you. Make them a priority and show them how much you love them. Do special things for them, make time for them, and be their best friend.
Pray for one another
Prayer is essential in marriage at any stage of your life. Whether you are going through a rough time or your life is going great, you need to pray for one another individually and for your marriage as a whole. I will admit, this is one of my weaker areas that I need to work on. My husband is great at this, and when he prays for me, I can feel the impact it has on me. It makes me stronger, and my love for God and my husband grows more and more. When I pray for my husband and our marriage, I can see the impact it has on him as well. Pray for your spouse’s spiritual life and heart. Pray that your marriage will thrive and that God will protect it. Pray that you both will live a life that is pleasing to God and that you will always make your relationship with Him and your marriage a priority. Study the Bible together and get familiar with God’s promises as well.”
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Madison is a follower of Jesus, wife to Steven, and mommy to her fur baby Bentley. She strives to encourage and equip wives to grow closer to God and their husbands on a daily basis. She loves to spend time in the Word of God, go on dates with her husband, whip up treats in the kitchen and travel the world when she can. In all that she does, she strives to please God most of all.